Tonight I want to talk about ‘Love’. The weather is tad cold and I have my Spotify playing mellow songs at low volume. It’s a perfect time to be melancholic, don’t you think? So, here it is.
The main idea of this post comes from C.S. Lewis’s quote I read on Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong (it’s a great book, you guys!) It says:
Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure to keep it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in that casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.
We all have had broken heart, I suppose. But how many of us got up and dared to love again? I don’t know about you but I’ve had a fair share of moment where I lock my heart in a little casket for quite some time after a heart-wrecking breakup.
Here is the thing: when love finds you, you are at the most vulnerable moment of your life. And it’s a scary shit, if you ask me – to be vulnerable. Why with all the uncertainty and the possibility of getting my heart torn apart again. That, and the fact that I’ve seen so many relationships ended and it includes my parents’ 25 years of marriage. “Thanks. But no, thanks,” said my ego.
But you know, when you meet the kind of once in a lifetime love, you just can’t help it but falling in love. Right? Yeah, C.S. Lewis will be proud of you. Jokes aside, it does take a great amount of courage to allow yourself to feel the falling in love and to love. Wholeheartedly. And it does make a brave to take the risk – of getting hurt, betrayed, cheated, rejected, you name it.
The journey of love may not be easy; it can be rocky and full of undesirable surprise. But here’s the great deal: you have one another. In the end, you just have to ask yourself: “Does it make me happy to be with the person I fell in love with?” If the answer is yes, then embrace the journey, enjoy the ride.
Needless to say, to love is to risk. Therefore, to love is to be brave.